Staying Positive Through Change

Posted on 17. May, 2009 by frank in leadership, spiritual growth

As a leader I find change is one of the most challenging things for people to cope with. During some of my challenging change moments I have had people ask me how I remain so positive despite the rapid change around me. Here is my short list of things I try to do to stay positive:

1. Become Part Of It

Often, the people that are negative about change, are struggling because they are resisting what is happening. These people refuse to let go of the past and some even actively pursue opposing objectives to resist the change that is going to take place. The people that cope best are those that trust the leaders around them and engage in whatever it is that is happening.

If your church, job, family, or volunteer organization is going through some rapid changes you should involve yourself in the process. Connect with the leaders in your organization and ask how you can help implement whatever changes that are going to take place. By doing this, many times you will be provided with information that puts your mind and heart at ease. This new information that you have been provided with will help you understand more clearly why the change was necessary.

2. Focus On The Positive

Sometimes staying positive is hard. Even after you have made a decision to trust your leaders, it can still be challenging. I recommend sitting down with a pen and paper and writing down some good things you can come up with about the change you are experiencing. Then when you hear others say negative things you respond with the positive things you wrote down. Challenge yourself to avoid negative talk and track on paper how well you do. You’ll probably be surprised at how negative you really are. Most people have a habit of ignoring their negativity simply because they believe they are right.

3. Deal With The Negative

Becoming part of the change and focusing on the positive DOES NOT make the negative stuff in your head go away. They do help you become a more positive person but you can’t ignore your thoughts forever. To deal with your concerns about the change you are experiencing, communication is KEY. A lack of communication can actually cause more negative feelings between you and others around you. Go to the person that is most excited about the change taking place and ask them questions about your concerns. DON’T COMPLAIN, JUST ASK QUESTIONS. After receiving your answers, relax and take a day to process the response.

What if this doesn’t work?

Change is easy for no one, not for those that initiate it nor others that have to implement it. We have to remember to be flexible and patient so that we can witness the results of the changes happening. The better you are at dealing with change in a positive way, the more potential you have for success!