The Love and Respect Crazy Cycle

Posted on 17. May, 2011 by frank in family

Over the last few weeks at Hope Summit we’ve been in a series of teachings called Modern Marriage.  We’ve been looking at ancient truths from the Bible that stand the test of time, even in the context of a modern marriage.  Last Sunday I spoke about the “crazy cycle” that marriages will end up in at times of conflict based upon Ephesians 5:33

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

If you’ve been married a while you know exactly what the crazy cycle is.  It can begin when the husband feels disrespected and begins to withhold love and affection from his wife.  The the wife senses her husband withholding love so she begins to actually disrepect her husband verbally in the relationship and with her friends.  So then the husband will pick up on this, and he’ll begin to withdraw from the relationship.  He will come home later and find any excuse to stay away from the house.  Then the wife gets even more upstet, so she begins withholding sex, and the cycle gets so crazy that the relationship eventually spins out of control.

We can break that cycle.  Listen to Dr Emmerson Eggerichs share his thoughts on the crazy cycle, and if you want to jump straight to his explanation start watching at 3min 50seconds: